One of the things that really bugs me about naturist clubs is the fact that many are so opposed to even the slightest acts that could be considered sexual. I was once scolded at one of these places that my rubbing of sunscreen around my pussy was too sexual. Of course the same people are the ones I catch staring at me all the time–I’ve even seen old me get erections from watching me and the sexual innuendo that gets used in conversations is just lame.

Don’t get me wrong–I know I’m sexy and I love to flaunt it. On hot summer days I’m likely to wear nothing more than a skimpy sundress with nothing on underneath. I do this first and foremost of comfort, I mean who in their right mind would want to wear an uncomfortable bra or sweaty panties on a hot day? Of course, when you have D cup boobs that are barely being contained, guys take notice–and when the average guy figures out that you aren’t wearing a bra, he immediatly starts to wonder what else you may not be wearing. If the dress is short enough (which it usually is) and it’s convenient to do, I’ll probably “accidently” let him find out. Then I’ll masturbate as I think about it as I drive home–another big advantage to not wearing panties under a dress!

I wish naturists would figure it out–either no sex ever, or let people express their most natural instincts. Naturism is, after all, about being one with nature, so why shouldn’t I be able to become one with my partner in the act of procreation.

Fortunately I have access to a piece of secluded family camping property. There I can be as naked and as sexual as I want to be. Depending on who’s with me I’ve done everything from mutual masturbation, to watching and being watched, to full-on group sex–an no one can tell me I’m too sexual.

I know just what you mean about the importance of context. Nudity, and even some groping from time to time, around my friends isn’t necessarily sexual, and my only income right now is from porn, but that doesn’t mean I want some guy making a pass at me, whatever I’m wearing (or not wearing).

Oddly enough, the least sexualized public nudity I’ve ever experienced has been at a fetish club. Weird, ne. (O_o)

If I am on a beach, or at a lake or somewhere more private – THEN I am more sexual. I will allow the sensuality to take over, particularly if I am with a partner. If I am with friends who are happy to see arousal, then I allow myself to be aroused.

So I try to keep my behaviour in line with those around me. My Ideal? Yes, I would like a grown-up attitude where the line between naturism and sexuality can be more blurred. I work from home but there are often others here that are not sympathetic to naturist life, so I have to be careful. When alone and the temperature is right (this is the UK!) then I am naked whilst at my desk.

I do the same thing as far as touching my cunt all the time whenever I’m naked. Which is pretty much all the time at my place or at Q’s. Also, when she’s naked, her boobs and my hands are constantly touching. I have trouble at play parties where that isn’t ok, where it’s supposed to be ONLY kink, rather than kink and sexuality. I don’t like how things have to be so separated.

I know some of you are thinking, “”well aren’t you used to that?”

People who do are…frustrating. I’m sorry you got more than a dose of it, esp. since you’ve been so open and powerful about your sexuality.

There’s a lot of this ideal of the “always-on woman”, the girl who’s never going to tell you no. There’s a lot of the social contract about the Madonna/Whore complex in there, for one. Indeed, there’s a young erotic blogger who posted, without irony, last week how she “knows” no man would ever want to marry her, because what man wants to marry a slut? Which underlines how we see these things, but…
I was discussing a stalking case the other day, and noting how it started in a 100% professional setting, although the person being stalked has a side-hobby that could be seen as “sexy”. Too many people would blame the “sexy” hobby, but the truth is that we don’t learn proper boundaries about things we see as sexy. Men, esp., get lessons about persistence, about ugly behaviors, and about how any woman who does anything to catch their eye is someone to be “pursued” like a common animal. And they then enact these ideas, to everyone’s sorrow in most cases.
It’s all damaging. It’s all making it harder for people — again, esp. women — to be expressive and healthy about their own sexuality, because they have to hide it for people like the rude bastards you run into. It destroys the very point of a nudist group, to have such actions occur.

Anyway. Thanks for the post, and the thoughts, and I hope things finally work out for you — weren’t you thinking about building such a community, at some point?

Jean-Paul got the grabbing thing from watching Sequoia. Everyone else thought it was a cool thing to do and all of a sudden I couldn’t walk anywhere without being felt up. I felt like a piece of meat!

But, with time, I eventually stopped grabbing Hawk’s penis at inopportune moments. It took some patience, and a lot of counselling, but it happened! And you can do it, too!