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sexuality and nudism
As some of you know, I used to live in a nudist colony. We moved from there about four months ago, the transition to living nude 24/7 to now trying to remember to wear clothes when I go check the mail has been interesting. When we first moved to Seminole one habit I had to break was constantly touching my pussy. For some reason when my clothes come off my hand just automatically goes down there. Not necessarily in a masturbatory (is that even a word) way, but I fidget with myself, my pubic hair, my lips and bring my fingers to my nose to sniff myself. It’s one of those habits that are alright to do at home, but in an environment where it’s only ok to be naked and not sexual, meh, not so much. The other habit I “tried” to break was touching my boyfriend’s cock constantly. For some reason if we’re nude (and sometimes not) there’s some kind of unconscious signal that goes off in my brain that says “playtime!”.
When I lived in the nudist colony I did sex work as my main “profession” (from cam shows to private sessions) and was also the community assistant manager (can you say multitasking?). Many of you probably wonder how the two fit together. They didn’t. It was hard trying to flip from one mentality to the other. For example, in cam shows that I did on Niteflirt, I would wait for a call whilst hanging outside gardening or just enjoying the weather and would have to jump inside, throw on some sexy lingerie to take it off again. Sometimes I would forget to get dressed for cam shows and appear naked, the guys always seemed surpised when that happened. Then if I forgot to take off my lingerie and went outside, the other residents were like “why are you all dressed up?”. Haha. One thing that kind of bugged me about the whole experience was the management’s insistence on separating sexuality from nudism. Whilst I do think environments like this are possible, when you’re the youngest, sexiest resident, it just doesn’t work. At different functions that the camp would hold, after the guys would have a few drinks, I was everybody’s target for lewd behavior. I know some of you are thinking, “”well aren’t you used to that?” but everything is in context. When I’m supposed to be in the comfort of my home and “nudist” community I don’t expect to be exposed to that type of behavior, period, especially for what nudism is supposed to stand for. There were plenty of other strange events that happened there where certain authoritative figures in the nudist scene in South Florida were acting completely inappropriate by “nudist” standards. This is why I just don’t think you can separate the two. Granted, my experience in nudism has only been with Seminole Nudist Resort and Haulover Beach in Miami. Perhaps its different elsewhere in more family oriented parks. I do think this lifestyle would be great for kids and families. I wouldn’t call myself a nudist or a naturist. I appreciate the freedom of being able to be nude outside, garden naked, skinny dip but I’m more about the advancement of the openness of humanity all around. I do, however, believe that it starts with your physical body. 18 comments to sexuality and nudism |
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I absolutely *love* Haulover. It’s the only beach I go to when I’m home in Fort Lauderdale. <3
I love the ocean at Haulover, it’s a lot more crystal clear than some of the beaches further North, thats for sure
I think it’s virtually impossible, at least for people in our culture, to separate nudity and sexuality. It’s a nice ideal, but I’ve heard way too many stories like yours about “nudist” resorts and the like that were actually just hotbeds of harassment and/or sexual behavior. I have no problem with open sexuality, but I definitely have a problem with the hypocritical way many of these so-called nudists/naturists claimed “it’s not about sex” when it was definitely about sex.
I personally would not be comfortable trying to erect an artificial wall between nudity and sexuality, or at least eroticism/sensuality. I’m not saying if I’m around someone who’s nude I have to get all touchy and invade their space, but I don’t want to feel like I’m somehow a moral failure for looking at them and thinking about them in a sexual fashion.
yeah, the hypocrisy was my major gripe with it as well, especially since our little camp was dying and they were still holding on to the “nudist” ideals that most didn’t adhere to and they could have made way more cash as a swinger resort.
I think its more about sensuality. My partner and I have often travelled to Cobblers Beach in Sydney (Aust) (we are in New Zealand). Cobblers is a wondeful couples oriented nude beach. Sexuality is sometimes quite open there and that is fine. But it is nice seeing other people nude and natural. For me it is total relaxation at its best and I feel cleansed and free. well done with your web site. Anyway – whats wrong with mixing nudity with sex. My ideal would be a clothes free community that was self sustainable. There is something like this in Brazil.
Sorry for the complete aside, but YEAH IGUANA! I love iguanas.
More on topic, though, I think the missing piece is sensuality… But as a guy who still has a difficult time letting others see me, I’m no authority.
In all honesty, I don’t think you can separate sexuality from human life, regardless of what you’re wearing or not.
Many nudist groups play down the sexuality angle to keep themselves out of trouble with authority, but frankly it ain’t going to work. Inappropriate advances will always be made to attractive young women no matter how they’re dressed. It’s a rather dodgy unwritten part of western culture.
It’s unfortunate that the camp lost you two, as you were bringing some vibrancy and life to the place. Still, I sense you saying that you wish that you could separate nudity from sexuality, in that you didn’t like being the target of lewd behaviour from the older residents (which of course is understandable). Maybe if the place had more younger and attractive residents, there would not have been such unwanted attention and boundaries could have been more easily set.
All I know is if someone like you started touching themselves and grabbing their boyfriend’s johnson it would take near superhuman will power to not find that sexually arousing.
I’ve been through some pretty big changes in my life, too. Sometimes I find myself thinking back to the way things used to be, and even acting like I’m still there. It is difficult. I guess it is my subconscious way of saying I’m not quite ready to move on?
But, with time, I eventually stopped grabbing Hawk’s penis at inopportune moments. It took some patience, and a lot of counselling, but it happened! And you can do it, too!
She left out a part. Not only would she be walking around the camp touching herself, she would smell her hands and tasting her fingers afterwards. (Her pussy does smell and taste very nice.)
Jean-Paul got the grabbing thing from watching Sequoia. Everyone else thought it was a cool thing to do and all of a sudden I couldn’t walk anywhere without being felt up. I felt like a piece of meat!
People who do are…frustrating. I’m sorry you got more than a dose of it, esp. since you’ve been so open and powerful about your sexuality.
There’s a lot of this ideal of the “always-on woman”, the girl who’s never going to tell you no. There’s a lot of the social contract about the Madonna/Whore complex in there, for one. Indeed, there’s a young erotic blogger who posted, without irony, last week how she “knows” no man would ever want to marry her, because what man wants to marry a slut? Which underlines how we see these things, but…
I was discussing a stalking case the other day, and noting how it started in a 100% professional setting, although the person being stalked has a side-hobby that could be seen as “sexy”. Too many people would blame the “sexy” hobby, but the truth is that we don’t learn proper boundaries about things we see as sexy. Men, esp., get lessons about persistence, about ugly behaviors, and about how any woman who does anything to catch their eye is someone to be “pursued” like a common animal. And they then enact these ideas, to everyone’s sorrow in most cases.
It’s all damaging. It’s all making it harder for people — again, esp. women — to be expressive and healthy about their own sexuality, because they have to hide it for people like the rude bastards you run into. It destroys the very point of a nudist group, to have such actions occur.
Anyway. Thanks for the post, and the thoughts, and I hope things finally work out for you — weren’t you thinking about building such a community, at some point?
Man, I so hear you with the absent-minded touching & sniffing. The more women I meet and talk to about this, the more I realize it’s sort of common, especially with those of us who get to hang out and work at home. It’s so soothing!
So there’s how we get names like “Tasty Trixie” and “Succulent Sequoia”.
Masturbatory is totally a word.
I do the same thing as far as touching my cunt all the time whenever I’m naked. Which is pretty much all the time at my place or at Q’s. Also, when she’s naked, her boobs and my hands are constantly touching. I have trouble at play parties where that isn’t ok, where it’s supposed to be ONLY kink, rather than kink and sexuality. I don’t like how things have to be so separated.
I agree that naturism is more about sensuality than sexuality and that is what I tell others when they ask. When I am at my naturist club, I am totally happy to be JUST naturist and enjoy it for it’s own freedoms.
If I am on a beach, or at a lake or somewhere more private – THEN I am more sexual. I will allow the sensuality to take over, particularly if I am with a partner. If I am with friends who are happy to see arousal, then I allow myself to be aroused.
So I try to keep my behaviour in line with those around me. My Ideal? Yes, I would like a grown-up attitude where the line between naturism and sexuality can be more blurred. I work from home but there are often others here that are not sympathetic to naturist life, so I have to be careful. When alone and the temperature is right (this is the UK!) then I am naked whilst at my desk.
Hi Sequoia!
Yust to tell you, that in Europe – and in my case I speak about Germany, Spain and Portugal – you’ll find a lot of nudist camps, resorts and clubs. The same for all – no open (visible) sexual behaviors. Mostly because of the kids. But as a big luck, we have various public beaches and lakes where one can find oneself among people who like to live like it is naturall. And nothing bad in touching one-self or anothers body, even not a pussy or a dick. Also making love is something natural and some share it with others. So, I decided not to become a member of such a club, but spend my free time at natural nudist places.
Sincerely,
Sunny (Hamburg, Germany)
I’d love to live someplace where I could be naked when and wherever I please, weather permiting, but have shied away from the any sort of nudist community for fear of unwanted sexual approaches.
I know just what you mean about the importance of context. Nudity, and even some groping from time to time, around my friends isn’t necessarily sexual, and my only income right now is from porn, but that doesn’t mean I want some guy making a pass at me, whatever I’m wearing (or not wearing).
Oddly enough, the least sexualized public nudity I’ve ever experienced has been at a fetish club. Weird, ne. (O_o)
I really enjoyed reading this post and I can totally relate. I am a 30-something female who loves to be naked, especially outside. I am also very sexually open and I feel that sex and nature go hand-in-hand.
One of the things that really bugs me about naturist clubs is the fact that many are so opposed to even the slightest acts that could be considered sexual. I was once scolded at one of these places that my rubbing of sunscreen around my pussy was too sexual. Of course the same people are the ones I catch staring at me all the time–I’ve even seen old me get erections from watching me and the sexual innuendo that gets used in conversations is just lame.
Don’t get me wrong–I know I’m sexy and I love to flaunt it. On hot summer days I’m likely to wear nothing more than a skimpy sundress with nothing on underneath. I do this first and foremost of comfort, I mean who in their right mind would want to wear an uncomfortable bra or sweaty panties on a hot day? Of course, when you have D cup boobs that are barely being contained, guys take notice–and when the average guy figures out that you aren’t wearing a bra, he immediatly starts to wonder what else you may not be wearing. If the dress is short enough (which it usually is) and it’s convenient to do, I’ll probably “accidently” let him find out. Then I’ll masturbate as I think about it as I drive home–another big advantage to not wearing panties under a dress!
I wish naturists would figure it out–either no sex ever, or let people express their most natural instincts. Naturism is, after all, about being one with nature, so why shouldn’t I be able to become one with my partner in the act of procreation.
Fortunately I have access to a piece of secluded family camping property. There I can be as naked and as sexual as I want to be. Depending on who’s with me I’ve done everything from mutual masturbation, to watching and being watched, to full-on group sex–an no one can tell me I’m too sexual.