shitty behavior

I wish I could come up with a more eloquent way of describing this but there isn’t, its just shitty fucking behavior and another example of how men just can’t behave when it comes to sex industry stuff.

Around midnight on Wednesday I got a call from some British douche bag that wanted to do foot fetish play. The whole call seemed kind of suspicious and it dragged on for a while.

There have been threads in the NF forums about certain assholes spending alot of money and then cancelling their credit cards so that NF ends up taking money away from the Flirt. Why? It doesn’t work like that with any other business. In ANY other business you can either get your money back or at least prosecute some asshole for writing a bunch of checks or running up credit cards and running away with your product. In this case our product is our TIME. Which I can’t get back. That time could have been used on someone that intended to pay me.

Well, today I surfed through the NF forums a bit and found a thread about some British foot douche bag shit head thats a scam artist who cancels his credit cards and then creates new accounts. And all of a sudden this morning there is not member information available on him.

I want justice on this. This kind of thing is bullshit and why doesn’t Niteflirt have any policies against this? Why should I have to suffer 0r give back my well earned money?

Alex

July 16th, 2009 at 12:02 pm

They do this to protect themselves from fraud. If they paid you before receiving payment from the customer then you could very easily game their system using your own credit card to pay yourself (not that you would do that). What they should really do is have their customers pre-pay that way this problem wouldn’t exist.

Mike

July 16th, 2009 at 8:01 pm

Unfortunately, chargeback abuse is not limited to NiteFlirt, or to the sex industry. It’s common in any industry/business that deals directly with the public. It can cost a lot, too, and it’s the business that accepts the credit card that ends up paying. My understanding is that the credit card companies have a tiered fee structure with regards to chargebacks, too, so once your business exceeds a certain threshold, you pay more (sometimes a lot more) for each chargeback. There are several such thresholds and, consequently, several major jumps in expense for the business accepting credit cards when those thresholds are exceeded. The theory is that it’s an incentive for businesses to do whatever they can to protect against fraud, but in reality it’s just yet another revenue stream for the credit card companies. In a sex-related business you’re basically in credit card hell, too, because the credit card companies know there’s a high rate of fraud and that no politician will stand up for the sex industry, so they can be exploited mercilessly. It makes it hard to make money, that’s for sure.

steveo

July 17th, 2009 at 11:46 am

I have to say that I enjoy your writing. It has a sort of raw and real style to it. I wish I could suggest a way you could write in such a way (about the sexually oriented topics) to be more mainstream. That way, you could start getting published and paid. If you could get that type of job where you’re publishing a column on a regular basis, your writing technique would benefit from the fine tuning a good editor could provide. And, that would be much more valuable than going to writing workshops.

Keep going!

Jean-Paul

July 17th, 2009 at 9:44 pm

Tell Niteflirt about the situation, and then keep an eye open for this idiot in the forum or whatever. When you think you have found him, have them do an IP trace on him, and then compare that IP address to the IP address of this idiot who cheated you.

If you manage to match up the IP addresses, you’ve got your man. Tell them, at a minimum, to permaban his IP from niteflirt. If they refuse, you can either 1. start screening your customers just that much more strictly, or 2. go work somewhere else.

That guy does sound like a jerk. Hang in there.