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i hate the word vanillaWhen its used to describe “normal” sex. I mean, what is it supposed to be in comparison to anyways? Chocolate? Which denotes what? BDSM and other really trendy “kinky” fetishes that are hot at the moment? So anything that feels pleasurable is boring and therefore, vanilla? Eww. Shouldn’t chocolate be the tastier, more pleasurable choice? Thats what I think. I like chocolate and red wine sex, relaxed, no pretentious bullshit (which is extremely prevalent with the BDSM scene) just good old fashioned feel good sex. And all that “kinky” fetish stuff should be labeled as nettles. It just makes more sense. 4 comments to i hate the word vanilla |
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I like the game of kink and simple tactile warmth and beauty as well. Vanilla is the biggest selling flavour of icecream and Labels are only there for convenience anyway.
This posting seems like a good hook for someone else’s blog posting that I just the other day rediscovered mentioned in an old posting of my own; it’s about, well, garden variety porn.
The money shot is classic; wait for it.
http://sexualintelligence.wordpress.com/2007/09/22/garden-variety-porn/
I am curious Sequoia, what is “normal” sex to you? I find most sex enjoyable never boring. Jake says Labels are there for convenience, are they? Gooks, Little Yellowmen, Nips are all examples of labels that were used to dehumanize people. Micronesian, Washingtonians, Southerns are also labels that carry identifiiers. What is the difference and how does that apply to Label Vanilla? I would add that in my opinion conversation about a topic between people is the best way to avoid Labels.
I believe the context of the word “vanilla” in relation to sex was meant
to concern the usual aka “plain sex” that most people have. In other words no bondage, no S & M, etc…. I believe that is how the word is
meant to be used according to peoples’ sexual practices.
Ted.